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Reset Challenge Week 2, Day 1: How this pattern actually shows up

Before we change it, let’s get specific.

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Jan 12, 2026

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Hi there,

Welcome to Week 2!

Last week, you identified one recurring pattern you’re ready to repeat less. This week, we’re going to reset it in a small, intentional way.

Not all at once. Not forever. And not perfectly.

Today is about getting concrete.

❝

Week 2: Resetting one pattern

This week is about changing one default in a small, intentional way. Not overhauling how you lead. Not fixing everything at once. Just interrupting a single pattern so it stops running on autopilot.

Week 2, Day 1: How this pattern actually shows up

Take the pattern you chose at the end of last week and look at how it shows up in your day-to-day work.

Not how you feel about it. Not why you think it exists. Just what it looks like in practice.

This might show up as:

  • meetings you automatically say yes to

  • decisions you default to making yourself

  • interruptions you allow without questioning

  • work that lands with you “temporarily” and sticks

You’re mapping the mechanics, not judging them. If this feels obvious, that’s a good sign.

My example

My pattern is defaulting to availability.

In practice, that meant back-to-back meetings most days, very little protected focus time, and being the first stop for questions and decisions. Even when I blocked time on my calendar, it was the easiest thing to give up.

Seeing it laid out like this made it feel less like a personality trait and more like a system I’d been operating inside.

How to complete today’s prompt

Write down 3–5 ways your pattern actually shows up during a normal week.

  • If replying to the email helps you get it out of your head, hit reply and jot down your answer.

  • If you’d rather keep this private, write it down somewhere just for you.

Bullet points are fine. Messy is fine. You’re not changing anything yet, just making it visible.

Tomorrow, we’ll look at what this pattern costs you when it runs at full volume.

Chat soon,
Kelly

Missed a day or starting late? You can find all challenge prompts here.


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