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Reset Challenge Week 2, Day 2: What this pattern costs you

Even when it's working.

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Jan 13, 2026

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Hi there,

Yesterday, you mapped how your pattern actually shows up in your day-to-day work.

Today, we’re looking at the other side of that picture.

Not to beat yourself up. Just to get honest about tradeoffs.

❝

Week 2: Resetting one pattern

This week is about changing one default in a small, intentional way. Not overhauling how you lead. Not fixing everything at once. Just interrupting a single pattern so it stops running on autopilot.

Week 2, Day 2: What this pattern costs you

When this pattern runs at full volume, what does it quietly cost you?

Not in theory. In practice.

This might show up as:

  • energy you don’t get back

  • time that never quite feels like your own

  • work that stays reactive instead of intentional

  • decisions that feel heavier than they should

The outcome may look fine. The cost often doesn’t.

My example

When I defaulted to availability, the work still moved forward. People could typically get time with me, decisions were made quickly, and I stayed close to everything.

But by the end of most days, I was mentally exhausted. I had very little energy left for thinking ahead, reflecting, or doing deeper work. Almost all of my attention went to responding in real time. I never felt like was completing anything, especially at my job level.

Nothing was “broken.” It just cost more than I realized while I was in it.

How to complete today’s prompt

Write down 2–3 ways this pattern costs you when it runs unchecked. A sentence or two is enough.

Remember: you’re not fixing anything yet. You’re just making the tradeoff visible.

Tomorrow, we’ll look at what this pattern would look like if it showed up slightly less.

Chat soon,
Kelly

Missed a day or starting late? You can find all challenge prompts here.


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